Derby SANDS is Firefly Photography’s chosen charity for 2018. Here’s a first hand account of why their work is so important and why we’re proud to support all that they do.
“A year ago me and my partner went through the worst thing I have ever experienced, the loss of a child. Our Rey Rosemary was stillborn at 36 weeks, for no reason other than it being described as ‘one of those things that can happen’. I was in hospital having a scan and supposed to be discussing a c section to be booked for a just a week later due to my health. We were just so close to her being here… That news was like a punch to the throat. From there we recieved the best care from the Derby Hospital maternity staff, and after we left the hospital from organisations like Derby Sands.
Rey is buried at Nottingham Road cemetry in an area provided by Derby Sands. It brings me and family some comfort knowing she is among the other angel babies, and that any visitors we see there can relate to what each other have been through. I have a few friends with babies buried around Rey, and we all look out for each other and our babies surroundings, like an extended family. When I go to visit Rey she usually has a flower or trinket left from one of my friends which is so heart warming.
Derby Sands hold a christmas service at their Baby Garden at Markeaton Crem. Me and my partner went last year to remember Rey on what would have been her first christmas. They have a christmas tree where families can leave a bauble personalised to their baby – we hung a Rey character from “Star Wars”. Members read poems that reflected the feelings we all shared around this time of year having a precious family member missing. The service, although very emotional, was a great outlet for our grief and we felt safe being around such lovely people.
Our rainbow Sam was born almost exactly a year after Rey was born (the day before her first birthday!). It was a rollercoaster as he was only 33 weeks gestation but it was definatley his time to come. I like to think Rey sent him on purpose that day so we wouldn’t be as sad on her birthday, and our minds would of been kept busy. Im happy to say after 3 weeks in the NICU we brought Sam home. He is the image of his sister and it feels like we have a piece of her at home with us. Derby Sands is such a great choice of charity by Firefly Photography and thank you for the opportunity to highlight the important role they play in supporting grieving parents”
The photos have been provided by the family and they have given kind permission for them to be featured on the Firefly blog